“Why the world sleeping on black girls? Hey I don’t know, man.” ~Play the Guitar, B.o.B. ft.Andre 3000
Black men don’t know how to commit. Black men are playas. Black men don’t know how to communicate. Black men are lazy. Black men don’t know what they want. So I’m done with them.
LIES! I will NOT give up on my Black men, but it seems like Black men are giving up on us. I mentioned a few stereotypes of Black men which are non-factual, but I feel like some Black men believe that ALL Black women are angry, difficult, bitter and controlling. These men are starting to look to other races for love and leave Black women alone all together.
I don’t discriminate against interracial relationships. What I don’t like is someone saying they will NEVER date someone of their OWN race. That’s asinine. I understand people have “preferences” but to blatantly say you prefer to date outside of your own race is showing that you don’t even love yourself. You’re basically saying your own race is not good enough…your own men/women are not good enough to date so why should you date them. So what do you really think about yourself?
I’m writing this because I had a discussion with someone on Facebook and the person said that his coworker, who is a Black man, will “never date Black women again, only White women because it’s less stress, they’re easy to communicate with,don’t give you a hard time,affectionate and not just with sexual things.And she will at least offer to pay for the check”…sigh. I KNOW plenty of BLACK women who don’t cause stress, easy to communicate with, don’t give their guy a hard time, affectionate and not just with sexual things, and will offer to pay for the check from time to time. But this list is a little twisted. Seems like this particular guy is looking for someone who will do for him, but what about the woman. What happened to wanting a woman of substance? A woman worth your time and love? A spiritually/emotionally/mentally stable woman? Does that not matter anymore? There are PLENTY of good Black women. So brothas, be patient. Because Black women are definitely, patiently waiting for you.
Honestly, people are different. So everyone can seem difficult. We never totally know someone’s thoughts, wants or desires. I wish people would stop stereotyping. EVERY Black woman isn’t the same. EVERY person of ANY race is not the same. Don’t generalize. Don’t stereotype. See everyone as an individual before you pass judgement.
“Tell me how you’d feel if i was gone…no mama, no daughter, no sista friends. Tell me my brotha, what will become of you then? what if, POOF, every Black female in the world disappeared? Your beautiful brown would be forever gone with no more cocoa wombs to carry your brown on. You right there would be the last of your kind..cuz if there was no me. there’d be no YOU. tell me how you’d feel, if I was gone.” How It Make You Feel, by Jill Scott